He Forgot to Call? Oh, No Big Deal
I actually enjoy reading these modern love pieces because i find them a bit more up to date and interesting. This woman had kind of a shakey experience with men and i feel like it started at a young age seeing her mother and father's marriage. She explained that her father was careless and didnt show her mother much attention, but after her mom started to act the same way, her father seemed to want the mother and begged and pleaded for her not to leave. After seeing a better reaction to neglecting men and showing them no attention, she began to use this method. She had bad relationships after bad relationships and after her father sees this he gives her kind of a "Rule Book". The book has many different rules like not calling men, men pay the bill, dont call back, be the first to hang up which all seem a little petty and immature to me. She starts to see therapist who indeed like any other sane person is trying to alter the way she views the do's and dont's of relationships and i think hearing from him that he does not like a women who plays hard to get and does the things that she thinks is right, she tries a different approach with men. A new but yet better and probably better resulting approach. After dropping the rules from the rule book, she takes risks and actually meets a guy offline and approaches him in person, things that she would not normally do, her love life and relationship with this man looks up. She gets married and has been for a couple years.
After reading this, it reminds me of the movie "Two Can Play that Game" with Vivica A. Fox and Morris Chestnut and after breaking, she tries to win him back with rules and after it is all said and done he does not come back. She then realizes she cant control her man with rules and after dropping them, they get back together. I think this is true, i really dont think mean like an easy women but i dont think they want a mini Mike Tyson woman either who goes overboard to make a statement. I found her rules to be petty like i said and immature.
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Someone to Watch Over Me (on Google Map)
In this story, the lady prefers virtual intimacy. She connects with people socially in online communties and thinks this is an easier approach to dating and finding friends. Most people do think that virtual relationships are easier because one you can pretend to be whatever and whoever you want and you dont have to deal with the bad things that come along with relationships like cheating, neglect because of appearance change, that person never knows because the relationship is maintained through a cyberspace. As she explains relationships aren't any easier online because some people liek herself tend to act the same although given a different identity because they are so used to being who they are.
This has become very popular in modern s0ciety with myspace, facebook, blogger, xanga and other networking websites, people find it easier to connect with others and stay connected with old friends while finding new ones. She said that she had profiles on almost every single networking website and i find this amazing because i have a myspace and i can barely keep up with that, i find it hard to give a lot of time to websites that aren't a necessity especially being a college student. I do not have a facebook because i find it harder to connect with and harder to make and that is why she aw'd we when explained all the online profiles she has with pratically all the networking and dating sites. When I am 24, i would not want to be solely involved just online and in cyberspace, i would not want to find a strange person off the internet. I find this wierd but other people find comfort in this because they donot have to reveal their true selves, or their true appearances.
Wednesday, March 19, 2008
Reader's Response: Love In Place by Nikki Giovanni, Sonnet 29 and Sonnet 116 by William Shakespeare
Since Nikki Giovanni is still alive and while, i am only inferring and reiterating what i think the meaning of this piece is. These statements are factual and based solely upon my own interpretations of the work.
I was assigned this piece for a prior assignment and i have to say that i found Nikki Giovanni's biographies and works very interesting. In this writing, she describes a sort of "Love in place" as in a stay still position not going anywhere and not changing. She says "i know i must have fallen in love once beause i quit biting my cuticles and my hair is gray". In a way i think she is signifying that she has maybe changed her appearance as if to stay in love by not biting her cuticles and nails. She is keeping her appearance the same and allowing natural changes like gray hair to show, showing a deeper appreciation of love. She also says she appreciates love songs more then before and probably because being in love you find the meaning and feeling that connects most with you behind the words of the singer. While she is looking at old photographs, she is younger, happier and slimmer but even though time has changed and altered her appearance, she is still committed to the love they have. She acknowledges and has kept the love she has in place, still and showing that she is not going anywhere kind of like an unconditional love.
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Sonnet 29 by William Shakespeare
While reading this piece, i have the feeling of him giving a description or explaining how he is in his own eyes. I think he/she is desiring to be more like the men he sees. I do not feel that he/she thinks the best of themselves. I think they want to be wealthy or find the things that the friends possess. I am only making and attempt to infer the thoughts of this piece because i only understand it a little bit. Shakespeare's work is very in depth and deep rooted and it is hard for me to grasp the concept of Sonnet 29. He does not seem too content with himself and kind of wants to change his state in life, like he says "with kings".
Sonnet 116 by William Shakespeare
In this piece he seems to be explaining what true love is. In line 3 he says" which alters when it alteration finds". Kind of like if change is happening to a loved one, the other person he/she is in love with will still stay in love with the person no matter how many alterations occur. Love will basically not change even if the appearance of the other half is changed or the attitude of the other is changed. Love will stay the same if and only if it is true love. He says love is an ever-fixed mark and like Nikki Giovanni, he is saying love stays the same in one place and with one heart. Love does not move or leave if it is true love, it stays the same and in the place it came to. If love has come to you, it will stay with you and love will make no changes or movements. It will not shift or mold, it stays the same in a fixed(meaning still) place. He says "Love's not times fool", meaning that love is not going to change with time. It does not alter with hours and weeks, it stays the same over time and over aging love will still be the same and not change itself. He says that love "bears it out even to the end of doom(judgement day). This saying reminds me of "till death do us part", love will stick with you until the end of time, death, growing, etc.
I love how at the end Shakespeare challenges everyone by saying"If this be error and upon me proved, I never writ, nor no man ever loved". He is saying if anything i have said is wrong, then i nor no other man has ever been in love. I think that many people still do want somebody to love them through the aging, bad and good times but in modern times it seems harder and harder to find and this is disturbing for me.
Sunday, March 2, 2008
Readers Response: MODERN LOVE; Take me as I am, Whoever I am by Terri Cheney and Maturity Was Just Too Messy for Me by Peter Levine
In the MODERN LOVE reading, this story seems to be about a bipolar woman is trying to find love or wants to be in love but can not find the person she really is and therefore can not be truly happy in love because she feels that you should be able to tell the person who you are and what you are about and she just does not know who she is as a person. She was being put into crazy situations that she felt like she could not subdue or fix because she was two people. She had up and down times and she felt that this was the reason she could not find love. I liked this story because it seems to show how knowing yourself can help somebody get to know you much more easily. It also makes you feel better about yourself and makes you want to feel vulnerable and let somebody else love you. No matter what kind of person you are thought to be( bipolar, crazy, wierd, mentally ill), that you do have feelings to and are entitled to feeling loved by somebody.
In Maturity Was Just Too Messy for Me, this young man comes on to an older lady and they ultimately begin dating. It is usually many young mens fantasies to date an older woman, so I understood why he was so excited about dating this older woman. She is a little stand-off ish at first and declines anything more than just being friends and as young men do, he insisted upon it. He found that although she was older, she had extra baggage that he did not want to carry. She had kids, an ex husband and would attempt to drink her pain away. When she got so drunk that she could not even walk, he called a quits to that relationship which was probably the best decision he could have made. This shows that age is nothing but a number, but the level of maturity can usually become an issue if two people are not at the same level. This woman had a law degree and still got so drunk to the point where she could not stand and let alone walk down a stone walkway. Men may want to fullfill certain fantasies, but i think all men want a young lady to be seen in public and not a drunk or belligerent female. It was good that they are still friends and she can offer him insight and give him advice and he can give her advice on her kids. The friendship will probably go further than trying to be in a relationship with someone so much older but far less mature.
In Maturity Was Just Too Messy for Me, this young man comes on to an older lady and they ultimately begin dating. It is usually many young mens fantasies to date an older woman, so I understood why he was so excited about dating this older woman. She is a little stand-off ish at first and declines anything more than just being friends and as young men do, he insisted upon it. He found that although she was older, she had extra baggage that he did not want to carry. She had kids, an ex husband and would attempt to drink her pain away. When she got so drunk that she could not even walk, he called a quits to that relationship which was probably the best decision he could have made. This shows that age is nothing but a number, but the level of maturity can usually become an issue if two people are not at the same level. This woman had a law degree and still got so drunk to the point where she could not stand and let alone walk down a stone walkway. Men may want to fullfill certain fantasies, but i think all men want a young lady to be seen in public and not a drunk or belligerent female. It was good that they are still friends and she can offer him insight and give him advice and he can give her advice on her kids. The friendship will probably go further than trying to be in a relationship with someone so much older but far less mature.
Reader's Response: "Cat in the Rain" by Ernest Hemingway(textbook pg687); "A Rose for Emily" by Faulkner(textbook pg 700)
In this blog, we are to analyze and summarize our readings from our textbook Literature for Compostition.
In Ernest Hemingway's "Cat in the Rain", I found myself bored and confused. The story seems to be about an American girl and her husband stopping at a hotel on a rainy night. While the American girl is looking out her window she spots a kitty and she wants to go down and get it. The husband seemingly does not budge to save the kitty and upon her going down to get it, she is stopped by the maid who seems baffled why she would be going down to get a cat from the rain. These people( maid and hotel-keeper) seem to be treating this lady as if she is royalty and this shows me that she seems to have money and it seems to be a nice hotel and not just some rundown place. After finding that the cat is gone, she returns to her room but she seems very spoiled because she is complaining about the things she likes and dislikes. She wanted a cat really bad and at the end the maid brings the cat up to the American lady, but it ends so abruptly that I do not understand what her reaction was and what her husbands reaction was to the cat being bought up to her. I would have predicted a better ending than that! To me this story seems a little pointless and I can not seem to analyze this story to my best ability.
In Faulkner's, "A Rose for Emily", and this is only my inferences and my own interpretations, I feel that Emily was something like the joke of the town and many people did not understand her. They said she stunk, that she was crazy and many other characteristics that led me to believe she was not very liked among the community. She seems to be wierd and would stay in her home for some time. My mind keeps wanting to compare her to Emily Dickinson's story and how she kept to herself and did not really mingle amongst other people, that is the kind of vibe I am getting from this story but not just because they have the same name but because of their tendecies to do awkward and odd things. She did not want anyone in her home and when people did come she stood at the door and talked to them. It seems like while people had their thoughts about her, the community still seemed to care and love her as if she was normal but still was incapable of being sane as if she was crazy. I find their caring to be wierd because they seem to think she was crazy but felt bad for her when her father passed. They also seemed to feel bad that she was lonely with just a negro by her side. In the room, was a man who had been there for obviously a long time and yet from the indentation on the pillow and her gray her, she had been laying with him, sleeping there apparently. This shows that Emily was capable of loving somebody. I was also confused by this reading and it took me a couple reads to actually understand it all.
In Ernest Hemingway's "Cat in the Rain", I found myself bored and confused. The story seems to be about an American girl and her husband stopping at a hotel on a rainy night. While the American girl is looking out her window she spots a kitty and she wants to go down and get it. The husband seemingly does not budge to save the kitty and upon her going down to get it, she is stopped by the maid who seems baffled why she would be going down to get a cat from the rain. These people( maid and hotel-keeper) seem to be treating this lady as if she is royalty and this shows me that she seems to have money and it seems to be a nice hotel and not just some rundown place. After finding that the cat is gone, she returns to her room but she seems very spoiled because she is complaining about the things she likes and dislikes. She wanted a cat really bad and at the end the maid brings the cat up to the American lady, but it ends so abruptly that I do not understand what her reaction was and what her husbands reaction was to the cat being bought up to her. I would have predicted a better ending than that! To me this story seems a little pointless and I can not seem to analyze this story to my best ability.
In Faulkner's, "A Rose for Emily", and this is only my inferences and my own interpretations, I feel that Emily was something like the joke of the town and many people did not understand her. They said she stunk, that she was crazy and many other characteristics that led me to believe she was not very liked among the community. She seems to be wierd and would stay in her home for some time. My mind keeps wanting to compare her to Emily Dickinson's story and how she kept to herself and did not really mingle amongst other people, that is the kind of vibe I am getting from this story but not just because they have the same name but because of their tendecies to do awkward and odd things. She did not want anyone in her home and when people did come she stood at the door and talked to them. It seems like while people had their thoughts about her, the community still seemed to care and love her as if she was normal but still was incapable of being sane as if she was crazy. I find their caring to be wierd because they seem to think she was crazy but felt bad for her when her father passed. They also seemed to feel bad that she was lonely with just a negro by her side. In the room, was a man who had been there for obviously a long time and yet from the indentation on the pillow and her gray her, she had been laying with him, sleeping there apparently. This shows that Emily was capable of loving somebody. I was also confused by this reading and it took me a couple reads to actually understand it all.
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