He Forgot to Call? Oh, No Big Deal
I actually enjoy reading these modern love pieces because i find them a bit more up to date and interesting. This woman had kind of a shakey experience with men and i feel like it started at a young age seeing her mother and father's marriage. She explained that her father was careless and didnt show her mother much attention, but after her mom started to act the same way, her father seemed to want the mother and begged and pleaded for her not to leave. After seeing a better reaction to neglecting men and showing them no attention, she began to use this method. She had bad relationships after bad relationships and after her father sees this he gives her kind of a "Rule Book". The book has many different rules like not calling men, men pay the bill, dont call back, be the first to hang up which all seem a little petty and immature to me. She starts to see therapist who indeed like any other sane person is trying to alter the way she views the do's and dont's of relationships and i think hearing from him that he does not like a women who plays hard to get and does the things that she thinks is right, she tries a different approach with men. A new but yet better and probably better resulting approach. After dropping the rules from the rule book, she takes risks and actually meets a guy offline and approaches him in person, things that she would not normally do, her love life and relationship with this man looks up. She gets married and has been for a couple years.
After reading this, it reminds me of the movie "Two Can Play that Game" with Vivica A. Fox and Morris Chestnut and after breaking, she tries to win him back with rules and after it is all said and done he does not come back. She then realizes she cant control her man with rules and after dropping them, they get back together. I think this is true, i really dont think mean like an easy women but i dont think they want a mini Mike Tyson woman either who goes overboard to make a statement. I found her rules to be petty like i said and immature.
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Someone to Watch Over Me (on Google Map)
In this story, the lady prefers virtual intimacy. She connects with people socially in online communties and thinks this is an easier approach to dating and finding friends. Most people do think that virtual relationships are easier because one you can pretend to be whatever and whoever you want and you dont have to deal with the bad things that come along with relationships like cheating, neglect because of appearance change, that person never knows because the relationship is maintained through a cyberspace. As she explains relationships aren't any easier online because some people liek herself tend to act the same although given a different identity because they are so used to being who they are.
This has become very popular in modern s0ciety with myspace, facebook, blogger, xanga and other networking websites, people find it easier to connect with others and stay connected with old friends while finding new ones. She said that she had profiles on almost every single networking website and i find this amazing because i have a myspace and i can barely keep up with that, i find it hard to give a lot of time to websites that aren't a necessity especially being a college student. I do not have a facebook because i find it harder to connect with and harder to make and that is why she aw'd we when explained all the online profiles she has with pratically all the networking and dating sites. When I am 24, i would not want to be solely involved just online and in cyberspace, i would not want to find a strange person off the internet. I find this wierd but other people find comfort in this because they donot have to reveal their true selves, or their true appearances.
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